Have you looked into biological nurturing aka “laid back breastfeeding”? I really wish this was taught in American hospitals since so many people seem to struggle with breastfeeding. There have been studies that compared this method vs. the ridiculously uncomfortable positions they normally teach and the results were really encouraging.
Well timed article, as I am frustrated with my 11 mo sleep... I really thought that by this time she'd sleep through the night. My mom encouraged me to sleep train (apparently all of her daughters slept through the night at 3 mo...) but I didn't feel like it. Since I breastfed, I slept most of the time with the baby next to me in bed or in a crib by the bed, I loved it. My partner being African, cosleeping is the norm in his culture too. His mom lived with us 3 months and slept the whole time with our daughter (I got the best sleep and weaned her). She started sleeping through the night and I was so hopeful.
Then my mother in law left, she got eczema and teething and we are back at 2 or 3 wake up per nights and he we are still sleeping together for part or the whole night...she doesn't fall asleep on her own and cannot fall back asleep if she wakes up during the night...My friend who at first had a baby with the worst sleep, now has a baby that sleep 12H and falls asleep on her own, while I feel back to square one.
On the hard days I feel like a fool for not sleep training. i know I don't have the heart for sleep training, and my partner is not on board with the practice either so I feel stuck. It's so conflicting. I feel this whole sleep obsession has been the worst part of postpartum, since we receive so many contradicting messages....
I personally loved babywise and found it so much easier to have a set schedule throughout my day, it helped me know what to do next and learn my babies wants and needs as a new mom. Plus, they really did just magically start sleeping through the night without “training” after a few months.
Have you looked into biological nurturing aka “laid back breastfeeding”? I really wish this was taught in American hospitals since so many people seem to struggle with breastfeeding. There have been studies that compared this method vs. the ridiculously uncomfortable positions they normally teach and the results were really encouraging.
Well timed article, as I am frustrated with my 11 mo sleep... I really thought that by this time she'd sleep through the night. My mom encouraged me to sleep train (apparently all of her daughters slept through the night at 3 mo...) but I didn't feel like it. Since I breastfed, I slept most of the time with the baby next to me in bed or in a crib by the bed, I loved it. My partner being African, cosleeping is the norm in his culture too. His mom lived with us 3 months and slept the whole time with our daughter (I got the best sleep and weaned her). She started sleeping through the night and I was so hopeful.
Then my mother in law left, she got eczema and teething and we are back at 2 or 3 wake up per nights and he we are still sleeping together for part or the whole night...she doesn't fall asleep on her own and cannot fall back asleep if she wakes up during the night...My friend who at first had a baby with the worst sleep, now has a baby that sleep 12H and falls asleep on her own, while I feel back to square one.
On the hard days I feel like a fool for not sleep training. i know I don't have the heart for sleep training, and my partner is not on board with the practice either so I feel stuck. It's so conflicting. I feel this whole sleep obsession has been the worst part of postpartum, since we receive so many contradicting messages....
I personally loved babywise and found it so much easier to have a set schedule throughout my day, it helped me know what to do next and learn my babies wants and needs as a new mom. Plus, they really did just magically start sleeping through the night without “training” after a few months.
Interesting how powerful the thought programs are, blocking intuition